Why Are We So Afraid of Change?

My laptop is on a go slow... in fact it's so slow, my Twitter feed is still in this morning, it's only just downloaded yesterday's emails & Facebook has taken so long to load, I'm wondering whether I'll ever be able to update my status before it gets dark.

Now, I've seen this coming for a while and, in actual fact, in anticipation of it dying completely, I went out and bought a super-duper-whizzy new laptop three weeks ago. It's still in its box. I can't quite summon up the energy to sit down and switch it on and find out how all the software works and oh, it just seems like so much effort.

Yes, I know the little voice in my head is telling me to just get on with it because nothing could take more time than waiting for this word document to save to Dropbox, but I'm not listening... My friend's in the same boat. She's been using a blackberry for years and it's very temperamental, so much so that it constantly loses messages and phone numbers at random and she's always complaining about it.

What's more, she has a brand new android phone to replace it, but insists on using both. Simultaneously. It's very confusing. "I thought you were getting rid of the Blackberry?" I asked her yesterday. "Well, I was" she said "but I really like it". That's not what she said two days ago when yet another communication was terminated prematurely, but whatever.

It got me to thinking. Why is it we hold onto things that don't really work anymore? Why do we complain about them and deride them and say how difficult they make things for us and then, when challenged over our attachment to them, get so very defensive and support their inadequacies?

I've actually no idea, but came to the conclusion that this behaviour isn't just restricted to things, but to people and relationships too. Most of us, if pushed, could come up with at least one person in our lives who doesn't exactly fill us with joy, but when we're challenged over it, we find all sorts of excuses not to do anything about it...

Is it fear of change, or of burning bridges or just shifting the status quo? I've no idea, but I know I'm guilty of it. Maybe we're just hanging onto the "last chance" theory, you know, the one that tells you that if you don't change it, it might get better on its own?

Like my laptop, my less than satisfactory relationships are not going to suddenly get better. But I'm an eternal optimist and always live in hope of things improving. Because sometimes the thought of change is just too scary.

Don't let fear of change hold you back. Sometimes we all just need to take a leap of faith and give up on the things that make us unhappy.

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