Donald Trump has failed as many times as he has succeeded when it comes to his business ventures. Ultimately, he has become a person famous for his enterprise and his wealth. While I cannot claim to be enamored with his personality, or his hair, I think he illustrates a very powerful point:
The greatness of your life and your work depend on you being willing to take risks.
You have very likely heard the expression bold action gets bold results. And, well, it does! But if it does, then what scares us so much about taking that next bold move? The plain fact is that the results of our bold actions are bold for sure but not always positive. A certain amount of the time we are going to fail.
If it was a guarantee, then it wouldn't be a risk, right?
Somewhere along the way many of us learned that failing was bad. Maybe it is our grading system. Where else in the course of life is the goal 100%? For example, what if in soccer players got 100% of their attempted goals? We don't even consider this. Under these conditions getting a chance at the goal is seen as an accomplishment.
Embracing failure as a likely outcome and being willing to learn from it and make adjustments is the cornerstone of success. Perhaps this is why so many successful entrepreneurs were C students.
OK, so if you know that taking risks and even failing might be in your best interest, how do you get yourself to take action when you are on the edge gearing up to take that major leap to create the life, love, work that you really want to create? How do you get yourself to "take the leap"?
In my upcoming book, Apathy is Noxious, I talk about how in order to move out of inertia you need to intensify the discomfort of staying the way that you are. In other words, shift your attention to what you will lose if you DON'T take the leap.
In this approach once you know the real price of not doing a specific task, you actually turn up the volume on this discomfort.
Here is an example: I had a client that was working on a large project that she kept putting off moving forward. We started by having her look at how great it was going to be for her to finish the project all of the parts of her life that it was going to change for the better. For whatever reason, this did not motivate her.
She wanted the outcome but was not connected enough to it to see progress.
So, we laid out what might happen if she didn't move forward on the project. It was pretty bad. She was going to lose her house and be out hundred's of thousands of dollars. So, each time that she came up against that part of her that was putting things off, she would say, "Would I rather feel the discomfort of what I need to do now or would I rather have the outcome of not doing it." This helped her find the motivation to be uncomfortable in the moment in order to spare herself a lot of discomfort in the future.
Another approach is to adjust your perception of what "good" results are. What if instead of success and failure you looked at the outcome of your bold action as valuable information that is letting you know how to make your next bold move?
From this perspective, there is no such thing as failure for everything is teaching you how to make your life better. It is all just fuel for a better you.
Let me give you another example. Another client of mine held a webinar and she only had 28 people show up and sold two small programs. She was really disappointed. She told me that she had failed. I did not see it that way.
When we are moving forward in our lives, any results are progress. If you do not have clients and you get one, that is fantastic! If you want love and you go on one good date, that is progress. If you stop looking at things as binary - good or bad-and instead see them as process this actually helps you move forward faster.
It can take a bit of time to learn how to do this in a way that is genuine and does not leave you sounding like a positive thinking robot but the mindset shift is amazing when you get there.
If you were every that kid up on the tree afraid to swing down (I was!), you learned something that day about taking a risk and likely had a very enjoyable experience. When we are lucky enough to have these experiences of positive events coming from our risks it helps strengthen the muscle to take more risks in the future
Even if the outcome is not always good, we have the courage to move on because we know that the outcome can be amazing. When we stick with things we can see that the only thing between us and inevitable success is our ability to take a risk and then to keep moving forward until we see results.
*A footnote for those of you who leap before you look. LOOK. Taking risks requires reviewing the situation and taking educated risks.
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